Make chokidar excludes list match the top-level excludes

See packages/pyright-internal/src/analyzer/service.ts#L585 for the associated array.

The way pyright works is to eagerly watch everything using chokidar and then filter in the consumer, since the LS doesn't know which workspace we're in

packages/pyright-internal/src/common/chokidarFileWatcherProvider.ts

@@ -44,7 +44,7 @@ export class ChokidarFileWatcherProvider implements FileWatcherProvider {
             watcherOptions.usePolling = false;
         }
 
-        const excludes: string[] = ['**/__pycache__/**'];
+        const excludes: string[] = ['**/node_modules', '**/__pycache__', '**/.*'];
         if (_isMacintosh || _isLinux) {
             if (paths.some((path) => path === '' || path === '/')) {
                 excludes.push('/dev/**');